Labor Day: A Reflection on Love, Labor, & Loss

Labor Day in the United States marks the end of summer. It is a national holiday intended to celebrate workers, specifically Labor Union workers.

The meaning sometimes gets lost in all the rigamarole of parties, parades, and celebrations. Most Americans simply enjoy it as a long weekend and Monday off work.

Historically, Labor Day originated during the peak of the late 19th-century US Industrial Revolution. Work conditions were horrific both for adults and children.

Of particular note was the Midget Uprising of 1886. Pejorative “olden days” nicknames aside, dwarfs working in gold mines were regularly mistaken for children, brutally beaten, and paid a fraction of their taller counterparts.

Under the leadership of Hank “Doc” Homunculus, the wee workers rebelled against their oppressive overlords by feeding them poison apples and summoning birds and squirrels to bite them.

The famous Labor chant of “What the fuck? We’re not kids!” became synonymous with Lilliputian rights in the American Labor lexicon.

Subsequently, Labor Union Talls encouraged escalating strikes and rallies demanding higher wages and better working conditions.  Following violent clashes with workers and police, resulting in dozens of deaths, some heavily industrialized states began recognizing workingmen’s holidays on the first Monday of September.

Under enormous pressure, President Grover Cleveland signed Labor Day into federal law in 1894 to settle the mass unrest and bloodshed with workers. The national holiday has continued since. 

As a pithy aside, Cleveland was a shitty president in his second term. The Veto President’s biggest claim to fame after Labor Day was settling arbitration with Great Britain over Venezuelan boundaries. Wow. That’s the stuff of American legend.

With Labor Day’s historical backdrop so brilliantly revealed, let’s explore other holidays impacted by organized labor and the cultural laziness we continue to perpetuate by federalizing more and more holidays.

Artist’s rendering of Hank “Doc” Homunculus

Non-Labor Day(s)

Origins of American national holidays are fascinating to me. Part of the eclectic pastiche that makes me so damn interesting, eh? Among my other curiosities are the history of glues, 14th century grooming habits, and clown hunting.

Organized Labor has impacted the federalization of many “Monday” holidays to include Martin Luther King, Jr Day, President’s Day, and Columbus Day. In fact, seven of the ten federal holidays currently recognized were the byproduct of Labor Union lobbying efforts in one fashion or another.

The remaining three federal holidays are not a byproduct of Union handiwork. They cater to matters of historical unity and national pride and predate the Labor movement…

  • Christmas Day – White Jesus’s fake birthday. Thirty years ago, the USA identified as 85% Christian. Now it is 65%. How pissed is Jesus right now about the whole freewill thing? Membership in the J Club continues to decline due to people truly sucking. Reasons cited range from greed and hypocrisy to politicization, Donald Trump, and child rape. Anyone bother to read the New Testament? Wow. Happy birthday, Jesus.
  • Thanksgiving – a day to give thanks and appreciation for our myriad of blessings through gluttony, family dysfunction, and shitty football matchups. Nothing says ‘Merica more than your fat gut hanging over your unzipped pants, drooling down your man titties in a tryptophan coma. Too sleepy to hate yourself for joining the 70% of Americans who are overweight or obese.  Several recent polls have shown steady declines since 2016 in the use of the statement “proud to be an American“. Hmmm. Wonder why?
  • Independence Day – the annual “suck it” message to the greatest Superpower of its Day from the upstart country who established justice through rebellion, terrorism, institutional slavery, and attempted genocide of the native population. I often wonder if there is a hidden collective guilt we Americans repress. For all the bravado and show of acting humble and thankful, we are really so damn arrogant and entitled. Careful with your hubris, Ozymandias.

Which brings us to the longest non-Union holiday in American History: Covid-19 Day.

This charming vacation has lasted every day for the last six months.  Instead of a refreshing long weekend, we have been treated to new levels of anxiety, fear, misinformation, malfeasance, and death unseen since the Spanish Flu a century ago.

Most of us have never wanted to return to a normal work schedule so badly.

All that work. Jesus is pissed.

Labor Day Traditions: 2020 Status

So, let’s start with this thought: fuck you, coronavirus. You have ruined so much in 2020, and Labor Day traditions will now fall victim to varying degrees. Consider the following…

  • Parades. My opinion? Who cares? How these events have ever passed for entertainment defies all logic. How bored must you be to stand sweating on the crowded sidewalk for hours to catch a fleeting glimpse of… Fire trucks? Go to your local Fire Department’s fund-raising events. Clowns? Brrrr. Who the fuck ever let these makeup wearing, soul sucking, cannibalistic pedophiles out of Hell to chuck candy in your face?  Marching bands? Suck. Sorry, I was in the marching band, too. I still have a smashed right testicle from my bass drum harness wailing on my nutsack for the endless dirges down Main Street USA. Good riddance. Thanks, Covid.
  • Barbecues. The flip side of parades, for me. I will miss them this Labor Day. I unequivocally love barbecues. Eating zesty grilled food. Gathering for laughs with family and friends. Drinking beer while throwing Frisbees. Plus, the whimsically quirky traditions growing up in rural America, too. Like conjuring nature demons from the cornfields and setting them loose on the city folk. Great fun. Also, dredging for dead foreigners in the local crick. If only they learned to keep their damn mouths shut and mind their own business. Once dry, however, they do make good kindling for the demon-summoning fires. And we cannot forget Bang a Quaker Night. This tradition harkens back to the original Quaker pilgrim’s ritual molestation by the local Indian tribes to celebrate their need to loosen up and enjoy the end of summer. Today, it is slightly more voluntary. Highlight of the year.
  • Baseball Season Denouement. September typically marks the final month of 182 unathletic games of professional spitting before the October playoffs. Covid did us a small favor for 2020 and cut the monotonous season to 60 dull-ass games. I’m still pissed about a few things. First, DirecTV. Should I not have received a 33% discount for a 33% season MLB Package? Shit is expensive. Second, piping in fake fan sounds is like hearing a laugh track on a 1970s sitcom.  Total cheese. Stop it.  We know no one is there.  Last, am I the only person who wants to replace the cardboard fake fans in the outfield with bound and gagged clowns? Imagine their abject terror and our belly laughter when a Kyle Schwarber (Go Cubs!) line drive nails them in the face? That would be worth the price of non-admission.
  • Football Season Starts. I love American football. It launches like a fucking missile the weekend following Labor Day. Fingers crossed that Covid doesn’t decimate these premier male specimens this year. Violence, aggression, testosterone. The apex of athleticism and manliness. I played tennis. I never took a hit from anything bigger than a bong until I played rugby in college. My body craved the teamwork, the comradery, the contact.  Honestly, I needed to feel what it was like to get knocked on my ass and pummeled all the while sucking wind and pushing through it.  Needed to feel tougher. Rugby scratched the itch perfectly. Having experienced the torn-out eye corners, the mystery bruises, and the undiagnosed concussions, I’m now more than satisfied to invest $150 each season and play Fantasy Football with my family. Fuck pain. I’m getting too old. Everything hurts in Manopause. It hurts to fart sometimes.  Let some other dumbasses get pounded.

So, Labor Day won’t be the same for 2020. Roger that. Just give me football, god. A simple request. Don’t make me abandon the last remaining strands of faith in your existence. Glad we are clear.  Thanks.

Speaking of god, let’s now transition into our Labor Day miracle.

Are you ready for some football? I am so fucking ready!

Our Most Memorable Labor Day

Now for something Labor Day-related to truly celebrate.

My first daughter was born Labor Day weekend 1995. So, while my interest in examining collective bargaining and labor racketeering hovers around a 2 on a scale of 1 to 10, my daughter’s dramatic – nay, traumatic – birth occupies my thoughts this weekend.

Freshly returned to the United States after an amazing honeymoon in Ireland, my wife and I had a robustly natural sexual appetite for each other as 25-year old newlyweds. TMI?

We lived in the Capital Region of Upstate New York in November 1994. Staying with friends in Saratoga Springs for a party weekend, the night of my eldest’s conception is, to this day, known as One Drunken Night in Saratoga.

Off to a stellar start, I never added my wife to my health insurance plan, and she was an uncovered grad student. In my defense, we were 25 years old and super healthy. Who thinks of such minor details as health insurance?  Apparently not me.

In speaking with our company Vice President of Human Resources, I discovered my wife’s pregnancy fell under an exclusion I had never heard of prior: a Pre-Existing Condition. [Queue the dramatic music…]

A baby? What the what? What the fuck would we do? We had no money. How would we pay for a pregnancy out of pocket?

As the Veep lectured me about personal responsibility and growing up, her voice faded away. An ocean’s roaring tide filled my ears, drowning out all noise. I saw red. My heart raced. The anger pulsed in my head. Her voice surged back in, “Listen, you need to understand….”

“No, you need to understand, you fucking cunt,” puked forth from my mouth. The queen mother whore of all cuss words. The infamous C-word. Apparently suffering an insane fugue state, I had just called my VP of HR, a woman, the most dreaded word in all of misogyny.

“I’m sorry,” was all I could muster as I hung up the phone to suffocate her enraged screaming on the other end.

[Side note: Several of that company’s former execs read my work each week. Hi, guys. Just in case you forgot this chapter of our sordid history from 25 years ago, thanks for not firing me. Still haunts me.]

Fast forward to March 1995. Is anyone a fan of the television series ER? As though a harbinger of things to come, I remember my wife and me watching Season 1, Episode 19, titled “Love’s Labor Lost.” Cool Shakespeare allusion, too. Without the pretentiously colourful British spelling of labour, of course.

Probably the most horrifyingly sad thing we have ever watched on TV. A pregnant woman dies due to a doctor’s misdiagnosis of a bladder infection instead of preeclampsia. We were still in the first trimester. Could this be us? Rattled, I poured myself a few shots of bourbon. OK, I drank the bottle. Stop judging.

In May, my wife’s blood pressure started getting scary high. As did the medical bills. By mid-July, she was diagnosed with preeclampsia. The ER-episode was indelibly seared into our retinas. We could not unsee it, and we were scared shitless.  Why had we watched it? It’s like watching The Exorcist, then getting possessed by the devil, knowing it’s your fault because you watched the movie.

Sunday, September 2 dawned, one week before my baby girl’s due date. As though by way of psychic premonition, my parents arrived out of the blue that morning.  My mother-in-law called to say she was en route to visit soon thereafter.

Then the labor pains started. My wife’s unforgettable Labor Day.

As I circled looking for a parking spot, my wife suffered a placental abruption while my mom and dad walked her into the ER. When I entered the hospital, there was blood everywhere on the floor.  Attendants had begun mopping it up. Nurses whisked me up to the Labor & Delivery ward.

The scene in the delivery room was worse. My wife’s lovely vagina had turned into some sort of blood cannon. Crimson gore was sprayed across the floors, the walls, twinkly speckles across the ceiling tiles. Literally looked like a murder scene from a gruesome slasher flick. 

It is moments like this when you realize you are about as useful as a poopy-flavored lollipop. Step aside, Patches O’Houlihan, and let the medical professionals save your wife and daughter’s life.

There was so much screaming. So much frenetic activity from the medical staff. So much blood. Then my daughter was out. But she swallowed meconium. (Baby shit. Swallowed her own shit.) A neonatologist was in the room. Suctioning her lungs with a…wtf? Turkey baster?

All the while I had been holding my wife’s sweaty hand.  She was such a fucking rock star. No pain meds. So much happened so fast with such violence and chaos. But she was ok. And our baby girl would be ok.

Et voilà, we were parents.

Labor Day Closing Thoughts

Let’s recap. You’ve laughed a lot. Take a breath. Calm your pulse. I disclaim any liability if you have a stroke. If you shit yourself already, that’s just funny.

Labor Day is one of ten federal holidays in the United States. We can always count on Organized Labor to continue working restlessly to help workers work less. Delicious irony. And Labor Unions may need to begin new collective bargaining efforts to save the other three non-Union holidays from obsolescence.

Labor Day 2020 will have a few traditions spoiled for me. It’s my choice to continue social distancing and allowing Covid to recede into hiding, awaiting its winter encore. I know there are plenty of you Covidiot dickheads out there who don’t care and would strangle your sickly grandmother with your bare hands for one more grilled hot dog. So be it. Fuck you.

Labor Day for me is mostly about the birth of our amazing daughter. Life is tough. Shit happens. Our ability to overcome adversity, pain, and suffering makes us stronger. Forces us to grab fear by the haunches and hump it into submission. That’s my wife. I will just sit quietly in my detached fugue state until called upon.

Meanwhile, I will need to contend with football-induced priapism and wear baggy pants to cover up my erection until the season begins and the excitement dissipates.

Pray for me.

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Me eldest & me today. Laughing whilst enjoying a pint.

Epilogue: The Labors of Love

I didn’t want to make a big political statement in this story about the horror of Pre-Existing Conditions. But our hospital bill was $35,000 for the birth of our daughter because of all the ichor and drama.

Wondering what happened?

My wife is tough as nails. Or like the title to the porn movie I am working on, Hard as Limes.

She negotiated the bill with the hospital, claiming indigence, and got the costs reduced to $18,000. Still a fuck ton of money for a grad student and a commissioned salesman in 1995.

We maxed out our credit cards to pay the hospital. And then the most amazing thing happened. Truly the reason I have remained in a sales career for the last 25 years.

I sold shit. A lot of it. And we made good money. Within the next year, we had paid off the hospital debt in full.

Here’s the thing. I worked my ass off. This was not a gimme or a free ride. I mastered my craft and harnessed every scintilla of charisma available to ensure the financial security of our new family.

And, as many of you have asked, it’s why it has taken me 25 years to return to writing. I love writing deeply, but after this terrifying beginning, providing a high-quality of life for my girls has always come first.

Easy choice.

About PS Conway

Hey everyone! Welcome to Life Sucks. Laugh Here. In my college years, I was an English major and aspiring writer. Then life took over - marriage and kids - in our mid-twenties. Like all good Catholics of Irish descent, I literally looked sideways at my wife, and she was pregnant three weeks after our wedding. And then the ride of life began. My writing took a backseat for the next twenty-five years. But now, our daughters are raised, and my wife and I are in a Renaissance phase of our lives. As I begin to write again, I see so much negativity, tribalism, and anger on social media... so many people seem to think life sucks. The only antidote to this mind-rotting negativity that I know of, albeit transient, is laughter. So, I have committed to writing and growing this blog around that singular objective... try my damnedest to provide original writing that makes people laugh. And maybe think a little, too. Hope you really enjoy. If you laugh, please share this blog with your friends so we can grow our subscriber base and online influence. We are on a mission to spread joy, mirth, cheer, yule, and good humor to as many folks as possible. Thank you for joining this effort. Sláinte! - PS Conway

15 comments on “Labor Day: A Reflection on Love, Labor, & Loss

  1. A “bloody” good read! I can now never look at a dwarf, hotdog, ER episode, without this tale branded in my brain!
    You my friend are a master storyteller! 😂💙

    • Kat! My wife and I are giggling (and can’t stop) at your “bloody” comment. I so wish that was exaggerated at all. Good thing she has a sense of humor about it after all this time… needless to say she had a supervisory role in final content. Hehe. Cheers 🥂

      • Ummm..I have four kids! I definitely know that wasn’t exaggerated! At least you were in the right delivery room! Unlike Confused Husband who was doing Lamaze breathing with a Vietnamese woman before he realized he was in the wrong room! Yes, I am still married to him!🤣😂🤣😂

      • Oh NO! That is hysterical!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

  2. Hi PS Great post! My youngest son was also born on labour day and as a nurse who worked once upon a time in the USA I feel for the you and the costs of health care in there, but I am so glad that you have your beautiful daughter.

    As your neighbour to the north Canada I wanted to share that we also celebrate Labour Day in Canada on the first Monday of September. It originally gave workers here the chance to campaign for better working conditions or pay. The day is now part of a long weekend for many Canadians. So I thought I’d share a link to a story about my country’s labour day which is not so different from yours in many respects. https://www.timeanddate.com/holidays/canada/labour-day

    I also applaud your approach to COVID-19 we too will spend our time social distancing and wearing masks when we go out. The hand sanitizer stand on the table by the door.
    Thank you for sharing this informative and entertaining post.

    • Wendy! Thanks so much for your comments, and I will definitely check out the article when I finish grilling (just for my wife and me, sadly, no guests). Canada gets A LOT of things right when it comes to healthcare. I live in Upstate NY, less than a 90minute drive to the Saint Lawrence River, so I have a particular affinity for Canadians, their kindness, and their overall joie de vivre! Cheers 🍷

  3. Naomi Lane

    Thank you for another hysterical and moving read. I’m sorry your daughter was so expensive but at least you’ve been able to call her a burden had whole life.

    • Naomi!! Hahaha! Great point. She’s coming over tomorrow for Labor Day, and I’m making her bring the food (and beer… good beer). She’s got a lot of paying back to do! 🤣😂

  4. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that’s right grab that big bitch called life and “hump it into submission”

  5. I love your posts! We don’t even have Labour Day here, and I laughed my ass off.

    All the best from South Africa, Michelle (michellesclutterbox.com)

    • Michelle! Thanks so much. Shame there’s no Labor Day in South Africa. You should form a Union of writers and start lobbying the government tomorrow. 🤣😂 Also, pls make sure to reattach your ass. You’ll slide right off your chair without it. Cheers 🥂

  6. What a combination of learning things about Labor Day and laughter throughout! What a story about your daughter, Happy Birthday to her! PS: why do they have White Jesus Day decorations earlier and earlier every year? 😡

    • Alexis! Right? Every damn year! thank you! You described perfectly my newly invented subgenre: Literary Comedic Nihilism. With LCN, you learn a little, laugh a lot, then forget about it all, cuz it never really mattered anyway. 🤣😂🤣😂

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