Reality TV: I Am Not What I Am

Literary scholars, horticulturists, and astrologers widely consider Iago from Othello the most treacherous of villains in William Shakespeare’s caboodle of tragedies.

For those of you unfamiliar with Othello, first and foremost, please start reading something. Anything.

Baby steps before Shakespeare. Perhaps I might suggest The Berenstain Bears and Too Much TV. Small words. Ironic foreshadowing. Bright Colors. And no, I’m not giving away the most dramatic ending in Berenstain history.

Then, when you possess the mental dexterity to navigate more than remembering Iago as Jafar’s evil macaw from Disney’s Aladdin… Well, that is progress. And maybe the malevolent Disney character may just reveal something about Shakespeare’s Iago.

Quick summary of Othello.

  • Othello, the Moor (Black man), is an honored general in the Venetian Army who has eloped with Desdemona, the white daughter of a Venetian senator. Scandalous! The Venetian Senate sends him to Cyprus to defend against a potential Turkish attack. Desdemona accompanies, setting up the drama to follow on the isolated island.
  • From the opening scene, Iago plots to destroy Othello for mysteriously elusive reasons. Was Iago passed over by Othello for a promotion to lieutenant? Did Othello have an affair with Iago’s wife Emilia? Is Iago motivated by misogyny and racism stating, “an old black ram is tupping your white ewe”? Is Iago in love with Othello?
  • Through many deceptions (again, read the play for the juicy stuff), Iago plants a series of lies, stoking Othello’s profound jealousy that Desdemona is an unfaithful whore. The resulting finale is murder, madness, and mayhem on a scale that only Shakespeare can provide.
Ahh. Board games that use literature to teach racism.

Iago: Demand Me Nothing

Iago is manipulative, vindictive, and treacherous.  A true Machiavellian antagonist to Othello’s virtuous protagonist. Iago tells us, “I am not what I am.” A religious Elizabethan audience would know that God told Moses, “I am what I am.” This blasphemous oppositeness calls into question if Iago is the devil.

But Shakespeare turns that literary convention on its head. The viewer befriends the devil.

Unlike our kinship for other great tragic heroes like Hamlet or Macbeth, who relate to us and tug our heart strings through their soliloquies, Othello is aloof. It is Iago who consistently addresses the audience with his magnetic asides, making us fully aware of his schemes.

Think Monty Python’s Nudge Nudge sketch, “A nod’s as good as a wink to a blind bat.”

And Iago hatches his subterfuges with such sociopathic charm and forthrightness, assuming our alignment with him, that we become complicit in his nefarious plans. As Othello is unmistakably trapped, so is the audience. Caught in an ill-placed admiration for the captivating justifications of a wicked man.

Ultimately, Iago personifies the misogyny and racism of Venice in those days. Like a mirror, Iago reflects the worst attributes of the day. He epitomizes the worst qualities.

And when Othello succumbs to madness, and the killing begins, it leaves us horrified that we sat passively by as this malignancy metastasized through Iago.  His final ‘fuck you’ to we bystanders, explaining no resolution for his actions, is captured in…

Demand me nothing; what you know, you know.”

A leering Iago from Othello

Reality TV: Modern Day Iago?

Reality TV is our modern-day Iago.

It tempts us. Attracts us. Reflects us. But it is also deceptive. What we perceive to be reality is finely produced, sometimes engineered, reality sitcoms.

We know it is shitty, moldy popcorn. So why do we keep eating it?

  • Glamor – if we didn’t love it, why else would the Real Housewives series keep spreading like chlamydia to find yet another crotch in which to fester? These obscenely rich plastic bitches have spread this narcissistic plague to every major city in the country.
  • Fantasy – ahh, the elusive search for the affirmation of love. Factor in some uber hot Millennials with a side of cray cray, and you have invented The Bachelor series.  Or the hope beyond hope that some defective adult incapable of finding naturalized, age-appropriate love finds imported, mail-order love on 90-Day Fiancé.
  • Community – shows now have apps. Are you fucking kidding me? Not only can we watch five episodes a week of Love Island and interact on social media 24/7. But we can also now feed our addiction and comment, vote, take quizzes, buy merch, and be a total loser!
  • Train Wreck – my personal fave, and why I like most Reality TV… the shit show of awful people’s awful lives served up on a coprophilic hotplate of diarrhea in front of our hungry eyes. Like a drama vampire, I lap up their tears, their selfishness, their self-absorption. Fucking delicious. 

We leave Reality TV appreciating the safety and predictable dullness of our own lives and how much better we are than the people we have watched. We are not what we see on TV. 

Yet this vortex pulls us into its gravity well. In orbit, we revisit these vapid millennials, talentless de facto celebrities, creepy international wife shoppers, and disgruntled employees because – in part – we have been manipulated.

Producers edit most of the shows to shape our reactions (and interest).  Character development gets distilled from hundreds of hours of actual footage into sound bites that create heroes and villains. Hell, scouts spend months profiling talent for the shows to ensure they meet a specific required psychological, emotional, or social profile.

We know this. And yet we watch. Mostly because the endings are relatively harmless. Some heartbreak. A little happiness. A few laughs. But no one dies. The action does not lead to any life-altering tragedies with moral or spiritual implications.

Ask yourself this: What would Iago do?

These shows are manipulative, but do they take things far enough? I stand certain in the belief that Iago would devise an entirely different reality entertainment. Shit your eyes can never unsee.

Shall we explore some examples? Let’s do this!

The horror! (C) Scrubs

Keeping Up with the Kardashians

Why do we watch it?

Like all good wholesome family fun, it starts with Kim’s graphic sex tape leaked by her boyfriend. So, E! along with Kim’s proud mother, Kris, said, “Let’s make a less lascivious family show. One without cum shots!”

Then comes the multiple glamorous weddings, divorces, and surrogate births. Not reality enough? Throw in Olympian Bruce Jenner’s transition to Caitlyn (notably without a Kardashian ‘K’ Kaitlyn), cheating leading to surprise pregnancies, sleepovers with OJ Simpson, Khloe’s real dad controversy, Kanye (notably with a Kardashian ‘K’), and a powerhouse social media maven mom micromanaging everything.

Reminiscent of your real life, isn’t it?

What would Iago do?

He would flip the story on its ear from the beginning.  The new show’s name: Staying Woke with the Washingtons.

The story begins with a fake woke white family who wears black face and pretends to be African American in public, while hiding racist inclinations at home. All the kids marry white folks and force them to wear black makeup at home to be ironic.

The middle daughter Whitney is married to rapper Eminem. The story begins with Em murdering his Munchausen’s mama in a fit of rage-rapping. His daughter Hailie is beautiful, but she won’t even be at Ma’s funeral.

The matriarch Winona and father Wesley have marital troubles. Wes is questioning his sexuality. Winona doesn’t put up with that shit and cuts his dick off, wearing it on a gold chain around her neck. Now he’s her bitch.

The shocking series finale reveals Eminem is black posing in white face. Everyone knew no white guy could lay down those thick lines. He admits to hating white women and hires his Gangsta crew to kill all the Washingtons.

They spare Wes. He has suffered enough and lives to tell their story to the world. His new tell-all Reality, fantasy series: The Bobbit.

Wes Washington is The Bobbit.

90-day Fiancé

Why do we watch it?

In a Trump regime stoking anti-immigration sentiment, isn’t it exciting for TLC to profit on Americans marrying foreigners? Then put the couple on the K1 visa deadline to be married within 90 days of arrival to the USA. All the while questioning the motives of the foreigner – is it genuine love, or are they conniving to become an American citizen? Piece of cake.

And while the show’s ticking clock format is hard enough, especially these xenophobic days, producers’ tight control makes the show even more challenging. There are so many things gloriously wrong with the show… weird-ass cast, staged or even scripted scenes, women forced to misogynistically pose in sexy positions… I could go on.

When the curtain falls, the show has successfully married a high percentage of the couples. That totally blows my mind. For every twenty-five couples, only three get divorced.  That 12% divorce rate crushes the current US divorce rate of 42%. Of course, to maintain the immigrant partner’s green card, the couple needs to stay married for two years.

So… yeah.

What Would Iago do?

Iago would recognize the opportunity to ratchet up the drama and tension with 90-Day Fiancée: Indoctrination.  Green cards are far tougher to obtain under the orthodoxy of Cheeto Christ. New immigration requirements could end in love… or tragedy.

Each K-1 visa applicant will no longer sit bored and pensive at their fiancée’s home. The government will house them in barracks on the southern US Border under ICE command for indoctrination.

Authorities will return the contestants to their betrothed after completing a 90-day endurance course to prove how badly they love ‘Merica.  The frightened foreigners will first get sorted into teams.

  • White immigrants are automatically naturalized. No questions asked.
  • The smart immigrants, of course, referring to Orientals and Indians (duh), will spend 90-days as university Teaching Assistants. Audiences will laugh in delight as the TAs struggle to explain complex ideas to entitled white college kids. Also, the Central Government will retire the “broad brush stroke” and antiquated term Asian, favoring a return to more racially specific identifiers.
  • Brown immigrants have two teams. The “Speak English” team will spend their first 90 days working in fields, picking crops. PhD in engineering? Peaches need picking. The “No Speaka de English” team will sleep in cages until they can learn to speak patriotic American words like bigly and covfefe.
  • Middle Eastern immigrants? If you are not ISIS, you have family who are ISIS. Shut up. You do. You get a special trip to Gitmo for the 90-day Advanced Interrogation seminar to ensure you or anyone you have ever met pose no risk to the US Motherland.

Any resistance or griping will meet with a televised summary execution by firing squad with global camera crews at both families’ homes capturing every dramatic moment. President Trump will reprise his famous “You’re fired” tagline from his hit Reality TV show, The Apprentice, with the new tagline, “Fire!

We have invested enough money trying to shape a proper American. Not wasting a dime on flights carting your American’t ass and poor attitude home.

Trump. You’re fired!

Love Island USA

Why do we watch it?

My latest addictive regret in Reality TV.

Much like the carnival that is 90-day Fiancée, where the inbred bearded lady humps Bobo the Clown’s arm all day for a green card, Love Island introduces us to a different tribe of miscreants – pretty Millennials.

If you watch it, expect to get hooked on the quippy narration by Matthew Hoffman. The cast members are pretty. When I say these Millennials are hot, I mean they are fit.  Too much make-up, too much ink (for my untatted taste), too much shallow dialogue about nothing, and too much self-absorption. You know, the things that make this generation so fucking special.

Which couples will find love this season? Answer. Who cares? They will all cheat on each other the first time a voluptuous piece of ass walks by them in the real world. Much like their conversations, their intentions are drivel and lip service.

Is there a better way to spend five nights each week? I doubt it.

What would Iago do?

Iago would have a heyday with this reboot. The new show would be called Love Island of Infirmity.

Let’s face it. We love young, attractive people. And we hate old, gross people. Part of the new top-secret Trump healthcare plan for his second term is the creation of the Island of Infirmity

This uncharted and inescapable island will house all relocated seniors over sixty-five years old. This way, we can free up all the mandatory Medicare and Social Security money for making America an even greater, more perfect union. Think of all the money we can put into Space Force now!

Left to their own devices, these geriatrics will need to vie for resources with no social, medical, or physical support. They’re literally abandoned to live or die, like some slow-motion, real-life version of the Hunger Games.

Introduce some sexy Millennials to the scenario, looking for love in an exotic setting.

What they find instead is some unbathed, starving Granny who has no qualms about cannibalism. Granny has gone full native. She doesn’t have time for bitching about her aching back or what wig to wear to Bingo.  Hell no, this old bird is a killing machine of lean muscle, catlike dexterity, and a four-foot vertical leap.

So many conundrums.  What will the Millennials do without social media to share their every waking thought? How can they learn how to survive when they have literally had everything in their lives given to them? Once the strongest have formed a tribe, how will they endure the never-ending wave of weekly boats arriving full of determined senior citizens?

Tune in nightly for all the answers, and the most horrific conflict in television history.

Island of Infirmity. Seniors beware.

Closing Thoughts: That’s a Wrap on Reality TV

Alas, while it’s fun to imagine what Iago would do, we must live with what we have.

I am guilty like the rest of you.

No research necessary for this piece.  I have watched all these shows.  I will never have that time back in my life. I kinda hate myself for it.

In my defense, Covid quarantining has sucked. With everything closed for months, these ridiculous programs filled the void appropriately. They served as the mental bubblegum to help distract us from how shitty things were in the world.

Add to that the fact that my wife and I could polish down a guilt-free case of wine every few days to enhance the perception of escape and release. Now we are having a challenging time weaning ourselves off the wine and the Reality TV.  Addiction is a powerful thing.

Back to Iago from Othello. Isn’t that the beauty of Reality TV? We all know their creators are toying with us, trapping us in a manufactured quasi-reality. But we come along because life is so blasé.  We crave bread and circuses to keep us tranquil and sedated.  And producers have unlimited poison pabulum to serve.

They are making something we want to see. Where Iago’s deceptions lead to mass destruction, TV producers desire mass consumption. Their ability to inveigle us to then ensnare advertisers and ratings is the master plan. We are their enablers.

So, pour yourself another glass of wine, my little lemmings. Are you not entertained?

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About PS Conway

Hey everyone! Welcome to Life Sucks. Laugh Here. In my college years, I was an English major and aspiring writer. Then life took over - marriage and kids - in our mid-twenties. Like all good Catholics of Irish descent, I literally looked sideways at my wife, and she was pregnant three weeks after our wedding. And then the ride of life began. My writing took a backseat for the next twenty-five years. But now, our daughters are raised, and my wife and I are in a Renaissance phase of our lives. As I begin to write again, I see so much negativity, tribalism, and anger on social media... so many people seem to think life sucks. The only antidote to this mind-rotting negativity that I know of, albeit transient, is laughter. So, I have committed to writing and growing this blog around that singular objective... try my damnedest to provide original writing that makes people laugh. And maybe think a little, too. Hope you really enjoy. If you laugh, please share this blog with your friends so we can grow our subscriber base and online influence. We are on a mission to spread joy, mirth, cheer, yule, and good humor to as many folks as possible. Thank you for joining this effort. Sláinte! - PS Conway

12 comments on “Reality TV: I Am Not What I Am

  1. Michael Daley

    If I taught Reality TV (which I don’t – why would I?) I’d uses this as an example of an A+ paper! Keep writing, my friend! The audience will find you!

  2. Hilarious as usual! I LOVE Shakespeare so this was perfect, and GUILTY some Reality tv a voyeur to the absurd!
    Thanks for the rollercoaster mind ride it was BRILLIANT!

    • Kat! Thanks for enjoying my little universe of cray. I started this blog with literature discussions transitioning into comedic insanity, so it was fun to go back to the earlier days’ format for the first time in a while. Cheers 🍷🍷🍷

  3. Love your take on reality tv! Naturally, the 90 Day Fiancé mentions were my favorite. Awesome read!

    • Thanks so much!! Thought I’d try something different and make the bizarre “what would Iago do?” connection. Made me giggle while writing which is always a good thing.

  4. I absolutely love this post, mostly because I hate reality TV. I can’t watch it for longer than five minutes. My parents have taken a weird liking to ‘Cheaters’ during lockdown, though. It’s funny because they either don’t know what the people are saying because they’re English is poor, or they literally can’t hear what the people are saying (they’re old). Also, it’s super funny because they’re quite conservative. Lockdown is weird.

    All the best from South Africa, Michelle (

    • Michelle! That is truly funny about your parents! 🤣😂 I hate reality TV, too. But I have definitely have gotten sucked into it during lockdown, myself. Boredom will remain the culprit until I devise something better. Cheers! 🍷

  5. I loved it! So funny and entertaining as always. I was a little depressed at first cuz I’ve never read othello and you made me feel like uncultured swine 🤣🤣 but then you confessed to having actually watched all these piece of shit reality shows and I don’t feel so bad.😉 Thanks for the summary of the play tho. I am going to read it now. Thanks for making me smile first thing in the morning.🙏😃

    • Jessica! I just spit my coffee out with “uncultured swine” 🤣😂 my mission is mirth. Sounds like missing accomplished? Do read Othello. Totally demented! Cheers 🥂

  6. My husband and I have also been sucked into the vortex of Love Island this summer. We feel ashamed of watching such vapid, trite garbage but, as you say, during Covid we need fun distractions. We also have a box of wine. This is not the Age of Enlightenment.

    • Naomi! Guilty as charged. I can’t believe Carrington picked Laurel tonight. And now Lakeyn is still there? Can you imagine the drama in these coming weeks? 🤣😂🤣😂 thank god for wine. Cheers 🍷

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